Feb 28 2007
Do Funny Girls Get the Guy?
I’m referring to funny as in ha-ha, not funny as in odd.
Now, we’ve all read how women like men who are intelligent, warm, sensitive and funny. We say we want a man with a sense of humor.
I know that I like a man who can make me laugh.
I know what you’re thinking: any man who dates Ms. Q has gotta have a sense of humor.
I once dated a guy who didn’t get sarcasm. I was constantly apologizing because I’d hurt his feelings.
How would you feel if someone you were dating asked you “Do you like talking on the phone with me?”
You reply, “Oh …NO! That’s why I call you all the time and speak with you for hours on end. It’s pure torture.”
Then he says, “I’m sorry. I had no idea. You don’t have to call me so much if you don’t want to.”
That relationship didn’t work out.
Anyway, I poured myself a glass of red wine and started to ponder. Women like men with a sense of humor but do men like women with a sense of humor?
I’m not a big follower of celebrity news but it seems to me that the male comics have groupies and fans. It seems like Funny Men are Sexy Men.
What about the female comics? Do female comics have male fans and groupies? Are funny females sexy?
Do funny females get the guy?
I do think men like women with a sense of humor.
But do you want her to laugh at your jokes or do you want to be laughing at hers?
What happens if she’s funnier than you?
So guys: you tell me.
How important is having a sense of humor in your girlfriend/wife/main squeeze to you?
Are funny women sexy?
Is your girlfriend/wife/main squeeze funnier than you?
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I don’t look for a girl with a sense of humor, I look for one with bad eye sight.
me -> “Oh yeah, I look just like Brad Pitt.”
blind gf -> “Ew, I can’t wait to meet you!”
me (to friend) -> “Remember to knock her glasses off just before I meet her…”
Too much humor in a gf can be a bad thing. I want her to laugh with me, not at me.
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I agree with you: It’s one thing to be funny and laugh together. Another thing entirely to poke fun at someone, especially at your loved one.
Not much into B.Pitt myself. More into H. Ford or Sam Neill types.
Great questions you ask, Ms. Q. Do guys like a woman with a sense of humor? Sure! Do we like a woman who is funny and tells jokes? That can be a little much, speaking for myself. I end up smiling and “laughing” just to appease her because she is probably trying very hard to make me laugh.
She doesn’t have to entertain me all the time, but just laugh with me once in a while.
Ms. Q mentions she’s more into the H. Ford types rather than B. Pitt. How ironic, as I am often mistaken for Harrison himself. Yeah, really.
Hmmmmm…I think many hot guys are superficial and go for looks more than a sense of humor. Am I wrong guys?
It sounds like the guy you described here was just a bit stiff…and not in the good way
Jake: Well, I guess I should be clearer about what I think is a funny woman. I am not thinking so much about telling jokes, more about making a man laugh. I don’t know if I’d like a man telling me jokes all the time. Witty? Yes! Jokes-a-minute? No.
If someone is trying too hard to make another person laugh she should probably quit while she’s ahead. Not that I follow my own advice. I’ve been known to try a little too hard to get someone to laugh. Or even crack a smile.
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From my own experience, hot guys do not seem to have “sense of humor” on the must-have list of female attributes. This may be because they haven’t had to develop their own sense of humor. If a friend is setting up a blind date and they tell you “he/she is really funny” or “has a great personality” you know that the person is probably not hot.
I can just hear my ex-boyfriends now: You mean I’m not hot?
hahahaa! About my ex-ex-ex-ex-who-can-even-remember boyfriend. He wasn’t stiff in the bad way (!) he was just very literal.
“He wasn’t stiff in the bad way (!) he was just very literal.”
Good choice of words
Asbolutely: funny girls make the world go ’round!
It’s mostly about how well you get along, but a compatible sense of humour is really important.
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Nice Subject. I’ve often pondered the same thing. I not only have a sense of humor, but I am also slightly raunchy, and I’m fairly sure i was deprived of some attention as a child lol. I love to make ‘em laugh, but at the same time, if you dont like my jokes, or don’t understand them, it really won’t affect my opinion of MYSELF, I’ll just not talk to you as much and we’ll probably never be friends. I don’t ever “try” to make people laugh, I just say what I feel and if it comes out sounding humorous, so be it.
I also am not a ham. It takes a while for me to be comfortable enough around people before I get all loose and crazy (unless you get me drunk).
So anywho, I have never been told I was a piece of unladylike, low-class trash just because I make jokes and like to live life to the fullest. Any man who thinks that is probably so wound up and tight assed that he eats coal and shits diamonds for a living.
Be yourself!!
Hi Ms Q,
Like doodoobrainz(nice name btw) I just stumbled across your site by googling the subject, because I was asking myself the same thing. So far I have met only one mature man who gets my jokes and we haven’t seen each other for about a year. (It’s a long story, we just met once and its as if we have known each other for years) However, I’m not sure when I’m ever going to see him again, so right now, I don’t think many guys want a woman who is funny. In my opinion, I’m more of a goofy funny, of course that depends on who I’m with and how comfortable I am around them, but funny nonetheless.
In my opinion, I don’t think men want the funny type. I hope though, I’m wrong because if I’m not, then I guess I better buy those dozen cats now.
KJ
KJ: Based on my observation men enjoy witty women, men enjoy funny women but they seldom marry them. So..I’m not married either but I’m not adopting cats!
But Jill of Twipply Skwood is pretty funny and even goofy funny and she found a delightful guy! So..I think there are special guys who have no problems with funny women.
Funny women seem to be “buddy material” which sucks. Funny just isn’t sexy on a woman is what I’m thinking. However, being funny isn’t generally some bad habit or character flaw so I yam what I yam and the guy for me will appreciate it. And the guy for you will like your goofy humor too!
Guys who have been interested in me before said it was because I can make them laughed more than other girls and I’m like one of the guys, so yeah I guess some guys are different but there are guys who like funny girls.
Well, you’re lucky Rachel.
I had my ex tell me I was too funny and stole his spotlight. I guess I need to find a guy who’s just a funny, I suppose. That really hurt.
Well I am a funny girl, class clown kind of stuff. I’m bubbly and outgoing and known to make you crack a smile with my sense of humor.. I was home coming queen, and have lots of friends. But I’ve never even had a boy friend, and its really not that big of a deal to me. But so many times in the past I’ve felt terrible about myself because of it. I used to try and change myself all the time because guys love you as a best bud but never as their girl friend. It’s tough, and a self esteem plower some times. I hope there are good guys out there that are interested in girls like me.
-Team Funny girl:)
the guys i have met seem to admire me alot more because of my male sense of humor (which i got from my dad)….although that doesnt mean men are totally attracted to funny girls most of my guy friends tend to go out with girls who arent funny and the guys are the funny ones in the relationship.my sense of humor has allowed me to become closer with guys i have met…..in some cases closer than their own girlfriends!
to be blunt guys do not like funny girls,I know this cause i am the funny girl. guys think of you as one of the guys, not as someone they would like to make-out with. example one i was really good friends with this guy let’s call him brad, anyway we would make jokes with each other laugh at other people together. though when he broke up with his girlfriend ; wanted somone new in his life who did he pick his bestfriend the goofy funny girl… No he didnt he picked the girl who would laugh in the corner at are joke… sucks but it is true… no guy who is straight wants to make-out with a girl who acts like one of the guys!thats all i have to say about this (peace stay sweet)
i’m a funny girl…sure i probably try to hard but that is my forte! i like guys who are funny too–and if our sense of humor is compatible then i would say ‘yes’.
but, i do agree that guys usually want to be the funny one and i have to learn to just laugh without trying to “one up”.