Some people are great with only having fun – falling into bed, having booty calls, no strings attached. They may think that loads of fun. Fine for them, not so fine for me.

With respect to knowing without a doubt that your heart will break if you get involved – that’s not fun.

That’s when you either walk away or weigh the pleasure against the pain.

Do you now wish you had started an anonymous blog? I mean, you’re sharing all this stuff “over here” instead of “over there” so it sounds like you need some place to let it all hang out! I am leery of stalkers and identity theft and as you may be able to guess, am the type that tries to prevent problems from happening. So anonymous blog and lots of shredding of personal data!

Sounds like you’re still figuring out your relationship with CG.

Based on all your comments, are you sure you want to begin dating again? Maybe you need a break. I stopped thinking about dating for a couple of years and it really freed up my brain. Of course it then gets a bit difficult to restart thinking about dating which is why so many people give it up.

Ok, so if you both know in advance that it’s not going anywhere, it counts as “fun”????

It must go like this then:
*if* your heart is DEFINITELY about to break into all kinds of tiny pieces, the relationship is considered “fun”.

*if* you have an actual chance of liking each other for a good long time, it no longer qualifies as “fun”.

I wonder who decided that one? The same person who decided that guys get to look BETTER with gray hair & women always look worse? Or somebody less gender biased?

I’m pretty sure we were trespassing. Leave it to me to suggest to a guy who has already been to prison that he should climb a bank roof in the middle of the night…I think the symbolism is going to escape me until I get some actual sleep…yeah no…I didn’t do that yet. Wished to stay up on the phone awhile with another promise of “fun”… When will I ever learn…

BTW, it is SO much better for me to keep this dating stuff over here where *you* at least are anonymous! My blog, on the other hand, is read by coworkers & my son’s teacher to name a couple. Saturday my friend took a phone call while we were in the car & I heard her say, “I’m with my friend Jill. Yes, she does have a blog.” !!!!!! :-0 :-0 :-0 !!!!!!!!

Maybe I will figure out something acceptable for my oh so not anonymous blog…Turkish men but nothing to do with prison…I know – they could click your comments & stalk me over here, but they’d have to be pretty darn dedicated to stalking me & most people I know don’t have that kind of time.

Besides, even if things didn’t work out with my cougar guy, I’m pretty sure he’d still be willing to protect me from stalkers…and he wasn’t in prison for any white collar crime either…There. Does that sound like it will scare away stalkers? Or does it just sound like I’m willing to befriend felons?

If I can figure a way to email you through your blog, I’ll send you an amazon.com link for one of the authors.