I am trying to spoil myself and take more chances!

Define crazy. My guess is my “crazy” is your “boring” because I’m guessing you’re better at taking risks than I am.

Speedcat: what’s preventing you from bringing the new and unseen back into your life?

I’m glad you enjoyed the post and yeah, I love my mom and it’s great that she’s coming into her own these days and blossoming again. Mom and dating…ROUND TWO.

Your love for your Mother is very evident as you describe your day with her. I found it heartwarming and sweet.

Great post, as usual Ms Q! – Eric

Spoil yourself once and a bit and take a chance. Just don’t do anything too crazy.

One of my most enjoyable days was one I spent with a friend. If I had planned all the things we ended up doing, it would have seemed a bit much. Instead I was in this mood and I said, Hey, what about going here? and we did. Then I said, “I know this great spot for lunch in another town..” and off we went.

Jill: Both my mom and I have ridden a motorcyle (although behind someone) but always with a helmet. She’s never said what I wrote but it’s something I could imagine her saying.

Good for you that you’re buying things for yourself now and again, especially if you generally don’t. Target is a pretty good place for the Cheap Treat. I tend not to buy what I consider frivolous items. I spend time researching most of the items I purchase. Then again, I don’t really mind researching since I learn more about what options are out there (like when I purchased my digital camera). I am probably a bit too practical with my clothes so tend to wear very basic classic stuff. Recently I decided to buy some form-fitting tank tops – with a pattern! Yep, not your basic black and really just for fun. YES, they were both on sale. Win-win. I purchased them after the “bamboo incident” – a way to show myself some love. I also did it because I wanted to prove that yes, I still “have it goin’ on” – that this 42 year old woman can look right tasty when she puts her mind to it.

UT: Daily escape? Wow! What a compliment! I’m sorry I can’t manage a daily post. I probably could but for right now, it’s better for me to manage my energy.

With respect to the weight issue, I was also wondering about what Match was saying (I haven’t looked) based on my mom saying, “Match says to do this…”

Most women have a tummy. One man told me that he finds a woman’s belly very sexy – he called it their “Sweet Spot”. The female celebrities out there don’t seem to have a sweet spot which gives all us regular women the wrong idea!

Was your mom asking you to stop buying sneakers or were you encouraging her to treat herself?

I am so used to not wanting things that I don’t think of it all that much. I think I have to regain my sense of pleasure which is different than what most people do! I also suspect that I don’t love myself enough; that I don’t believe I deserve treats. Whew! Working…working….

Glad you like the photo. Mom was pretty fun taking those shots and it was chilly! She is easily distracted (ADHD) so there are some funny shots of her looking off to the side because of the many squirrels that were running around.

It isn’t surprising that Match.com would tell you ‘how to look slim’ in a picture. But at the same time I find it disturbing about the weight issue, even if it is just a little tummy. (This man over here likes curves. As long as they aren’t sloppy looking.)

I feel you on that want need issue. I get on people all the time about things they buy themselves that they really shouldn’t get because they have rent to think about. But who am I tell them what to do and how to live?

Just the other day I spoke to my mom about my sneaker issue. I will purchase a pair of sneakers in a heart beat. I treat myself all the time. I don’t need 40 pairs of sneakers but I want them, I’m able so I get it. You only live once.

Take the time to treat yourself. No one can treat you better than you can (in some cases).

BTW… Great shot of mom.