Sep 25 2007
Most of us musturbate.
If you do too much of it, you won’t go blind but you may get depressed.
What is musturbation?
It is the destructive idea that our needs and expectations must be met.
I must be perfect.
I must be loved by everyone.
I have to…
“Musturbation” was coined by Albert Ellis, the founder of Rational-emotive behavior therapy. He used it to describe someone who tells themselves obsessively that they must do this or that.
I came across the term in the book: Why We Believe What We Believe: Uncovering Our Biological Need for Meaning, Spirituality, and Truth by Andrew Newberg and Mark Robert Waldman
How can musturbation make you depressed? Well, certain thoughts and beliefs can cause stress. If you have unrealistic expectations for yourself and others, or excessive guilt or if you’re overly competitive you’re probably musturbating.
The more you musturbate, the higher the probability that you have negative beliefs about yourself.
I must be thinner…
I must be better…
Most mustubators tend to over-generalize, dividing things into all-or-nothing categories:
Or become illogical with their over-generalizations:
I’m a bad person when I do bad things.
[What's a "bad thing"? Not recycling enough? Drinking coffee? Watching TV?]
So…Do YOU musturbate?
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