Comments on: Clueless In Seattle

By: MsQ

MsQ — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 18:52:31 +0000

the frogster: well…I doubt I’d have had any regrets as I tend not to regret things (regrets don’t help) but in this case even if I were sleepless, I would have merely uncomfortable with having to say, “Uh, thanks but no thanks” to his call.

Married men, not my speed!

By: the frogster

the frogster — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 17:49:28 +0000

Well, if you had been sleepless in Seattle you might be regretting it today. So clueless sounds like the better option.

By: MsQ

MsQ — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 16:43:13 +0000

Derek: When it comes to the “Passive Asian Male” yeah, I’ve seen you (Asian Males in general) in non-action. Unfortunately, non-action usually results in the non-girlfriend! You are totally super in other ways but guess what, most women seem to want some signals.

Most people fear rejection and being rejected seems to fall on the male shoulders. I’m tellin’ ya, I’ve heard from a surprisingly number of fairly assertive in-all-other-areas-of-their-lives women that “NO WAY” would they call up a man or initiate the first move.

Huh.

I’m glad that someone has surprised you with being interested. Or so I hope it was in a good way. Hmm. I should write about another surprising episode! I am clueless time and time again.

By: Derek Wong

Derek Wong — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 00:31:06 +0000

Haha wel that’s interesting. You know I think that I’m realizing more and more that I’m also a person that cannot do that first impressions amazement that a lot of people do to woo people. I’d like to think that it’s NOT because I’m the all too frequent passive asian male but rather just who I am (someone who doesn’t have much game, but who is nevertheless super in other ways).

It has happened to me that I was surprised when somebody expressed interest, and I had not been expecting it. However it wasn’t quite as sudden or unexpected as your story was!

By: MsQ

MsQ — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 04:45:31 +0000

Speedy! I did take that first photo from the plane – unless I missed your teasing me? All the photos except Superman were taken by yours truly. Point. Shoot.

You may be a bull in a china shop but I’m friendly clueless gal! It’s finally starting to hit me that at age 42 I stopped thinking of myself as as alluring! I seriously don’t put out any “vibe” as far as I know. In fact, when I went out for drinks I was even more covered up than usual! I had on a big sweater over a tee shirt – nothing tight at all.

Because I haven’t been thinking of myself as attractive I’m always surprised. In fact, I am usually dumbfounded. Ok, I’m not so dumbfounded when older (10+ years) men are attracted to me but I am usually flabbergasted when someone my age or in what I consider my age range (+/- 5 years) finds me appealing.

My friends tell me I need to get a grip. I know I’m not exactly Cat Food and it seems I need to work on my self-image!

Since this was an older married guy, I wasn’t looking for signs.

The Lawyer DID reach out to hold my hand at one point but again, I missed it. It seemed in keeping with our conversation (I’ve even held or touched a woman’s hand when I feel they need that “human touch”) and most people feel comfortable with telling me their more personal stories so again, I wasn’t thinking of this brief hand-holding as a come-on.

I can’t say I was flattered by the invitation but I’m not insulted, either. I am more surprised by it all. It really seems out of left field for me. Especially as it was just happenstance that we even went out at all.

I can see you being a bit of an old-school charmer when it comes to the elderly women. I am open and candid as well and have sometimes complimented a man. I am by no means a seductive temptress!! In fact, based on what I’ve experienced, I’m the type that men find appealing after they get to know me. I don’t have the immediate Ka-BLAM type of appearance. Which makes for me being a bit of a dud in the online dating arena.

Which is why my lack of success with online dating has my male friends puzzled. All I know is that I’m much better in person! hahahaha! And I get better over time. hehehehehe. Personally, I’d much rather have THAT than to have people like me less the more they got to know me!

When it comes to drinking wine, I can drink a wee bit much for someone of my tiny size. Which is why I stick to wine. I rarely have the hard stuff like I used to. Not that I even drank that much of it back in the day but my body, it’s not up for the vodka, tequila and rum. Which is fine.

Regarding my lips – I have a post with my lips showing. In fact, I’m smiling! I’ll leave it up to you to find that post. heheheeh! Hint: do a search on “oral”!!

Jill: he paid for my 2 (!!) glasses of wine but I didn’t give ANY indication that I was interested in him and while I know how to flirt I am pretty darn sure I was NOT giving him any signs. PLUS we did go our separate ways at the hotel and I would guess that an “Elevator Scene” would be the place where massive signals might be sent.

Married men do tend to buy me wine. Or so I’m starting to believe. That’s my next post. Maybe. Last week was goofy. Could it be that I’m actually HOT? Then again, these men had been drinking…

hahahaah!