Comments on: Dark Whispers and Lessons from Macbeth http://qmusings.com/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/ Something to Think About Mon, 09 Jan 2012 19:28:15 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jill http://qmusings.com/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/comment-page-1/#comment-43617 Jill Wed, 26 Dec 2007 12:12:57 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/#comment-43617 I always have a hard time with "deserve". When good stuff happens people say, "You DESERVE blah blah blah." And I think, "So does everybody. But who really gets what they deserve?" I always think, if only everyone got what they deserved right from the beginning, if every new baby got what it deserved, what it needed...maybe we wouldn't even have to worry about what adults deserved. I always have a hard time with “deserve”. When good stuff happens people say, “You DESERVE blah blah blah.” And I think, “So does everybody. But who really gets what they deserve?” I always think, if only everyone got what they deserved right from the beginning, if every new baby got what it deserved, what it needed…maybe we wouldn’t even have to worry about what adults deserved.

]]> By: MsQ http://qmusings.com/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/comment-page-1/#comment-43206 MsQ Tue, 25 Dec 2007 07:51:22 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/#comment-43206 <strong>ricardo:</strong> yes...we ARE going through something similar and I left a big comment on your fraud post. Interesting how we used similar terms! It IS a nasty and insidious cycle to not feel deserving. I've been working on affirmations all the time these days. If I have a free thought - affirm! Any thought that is not fixed on a task - affirm! I am slowly trying to replace my usual negative talk with positive talk. Like one thing I have seen in myself as well as in a close friend - the thought that things HAVE TO BE HARD to work. So lets say someone tells you, "All you have to do to rid yourself of that guilt is say these affirmations for a week and then that guilt is gone." Another person says, "What you have to do to rid yourself of that guilt is crawl naked over broken glass, then sleep on a bed of nails for a week and tell yourself you're a horrible person for a month, maybe 2 and FINALLY, lose all you hold dear and you will be purged of all guilt." We don't think we deserve something to be easy. So we land some fantastic and if we don't think we deserve it (job, item, person) we lose it. I'm REALLY working on the deserving thing! I have noticed a change in thinking (like being able to accept produce and compliments) and I'm working on not only deserving a fantastic job but love. Yep. I know that deep-deep-deep inside me I don't believe I deserve love which is why I am single. How else to explain it? My friends are dumbfounded. I am an obvious catch. It's a mystery of the ages. I seem to be a magnet for married men. Or otherwise unavailable. But I have a feeling that next year will bring me all sorts of nice things that I deserve! You also deserve nice things. I'm rooting for you! ricardo: yes…we ARE going through something similar and I left a big comment on your fraud post. Interesting how we used similar terms!

It IS a nasty and insidious cycle to not feel deserving. I’ve been working on affirmations all the time these days. If I have a free thought – affirm! Any thought that is not fixed on a task – affirm! I am slowly trying to replace my usual negative talk with positive talk.

Like one thing I have seen in myself as well as in a close friend – the thought that things HAVE TO BE HARD to work. So lets say someone tells you, “All you have to do to rid yourself of that guilt is say these affirmations for a week and then that guilt is gone.”

Another person says, “What you have to do to rid yourself of that guilt is crawl naked over broken glass, then sleep on a bed of nails for a week and tell yourself you’re a horrible person for a month, maybe 2 and FINALLY, lose all you hold dear and you will be purged of all guilt.”

We don’t think we deserve something to be easy. So we land some fantastic and if we don’t think we deserve it (job, item, person) we lose it.

I’m REALLY working on the deserving thing! I have noticed a change in thinking (like being able to accept produce and compliments) and I’m working on not only deserving a fantastic job but love.

Yep. I know that deep-deep-deep inside me I don’t believe I deserve love which is why I am single. How else to explain it? My friends are dumbfounded. I am an obvious catch. It’s a mystery of the ages. I seem to be a magnet for married men. Or otherwise unavailable.

But I have a feeling that next year will bring me all sorts of nice things that I deserve! You also deserve nice things. I’m rooting for you!

]]> By: ricardo http://qmusings.com/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/comment-page-1/#comment-43190 ricardo Tue, 25 Dec 2007 06:58:14 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/#comment-43190 Well we are the same page so to speak. What you describe here ties in with my fraud post. These insecurities eat away at you and can make you feel unworthy of the good. It is a nasty cycle that you are well on your way to overcoming. In fact, I think you have. Well we are the same page so to speak. What you describe here ties in with my fraud post. These insecurities eat away at you and can make you feel unworthy of the good. It is a nasty cycle that you are well on your way to overcoming. In fact, I think you have.

]]> By: Jill http://qmusings.com/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/comment-page-1/#comment-42994 Jill Mon, 24 Dec 2007 19:13:16 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/#comment-42994 Yeah, scrapbooks, collages, writing - any of that creative stuff is all or nothing for me. And when it's "all" it's "all." I only stop to eat because I have to feed the kids or if the kids aren't here because I can't function anymore without food... Yeah, scrapbooks, collages, writing – any of that creative stuff is all or nothing for me. And when it’s “all” it’s “all.” I only stop to eat because I have to feed the kids or if the kids aren’t here because I can’t function anymore without food…

]]> By: MsQ http://qmusings.com/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/comment-page-1/#comment-42265 MsQ Sat, 22 Dec 2007 19:59:25 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/12/20/dark-whispers-and-lessons-from-macbeth/#comment-42265 <strong>Christine:</strong> Good motto! And sometimes going through the motions is enough. Like saying affirmations...sooner or later they sink it. But when I say to myself "I'm a big fake" I am thinking that I'm faking being a nice person and everyone will find out I'm some selfish, nasty icky person. BLeeeech! Replace that thought! Christine: Good motto! And sometimes going through the motions is enough. Like saying affirmations…sooner or later they sink it. But when I say to myself “I’m a big fake” I am thinking that I’m faking being a nice person and everyone will find out I’m some selfish, nasty icky person. BLeeeech! Replace that thought!

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