Comments on: The World According To Dad http://qmusings.com/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/ Something to Think About Fri, 23 Jul 2010 20:00:20 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: MsQ http://qmusings.com/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-49655 MsQ Sat, 19 Jan 2008 20:27:01 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/#comment-49655 <strong>HMTKSteve:</strong> I have no plans for writing about my online dates. Not that there are any dates to write about. My mom and I are very different when it comes to dating. All things being equal, we would never date the same type of man nor would the same man be attracted to both of us. Mom tells me, "I'm not cerebral. Cerebral men like you." Mom is probably way more fun and definitely more spontaneous than I. Stuff happens to her. I plan for stuff. Hence her whacky dating experiences. My online profile is a pretty big filter. It only appeals to a certain type. I end up meeting terrific men. We may not match but they have been very nice men with a great deal of integrity. I've been too busy to think about online dating. The way things have been going I'm guessing I'll meet someone the "old fashioned way." HMTKSteve: I have no plans for writing about my online dates. Not that there are any dates to write about.

My mom and I are very different when it comes to dating. All things being equal, we would never date the same type of man nor would the same man be attracted to both of us.

Mom tells me, “I’m not cerebral. Cerebral men like you.”

Mom is probably way more fun and definitely more spontaneous than I. Stuff happens to her. I plan for stuff. Hence her whacky dating experiences.

My online profile is a pretty big filter. It only appeals to a certain type. I end up meeting terrific men. We may not match but they have been very nice men with a great deal of integrity.

I’ve been too busy to think about online dating. The way things have been going I’m guessing I’ll meet someone the “old fashioned way.”

]]> By: HMTKSteve http://qmusings.com/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-49396 HMTKSteve Fri, 18 Jan 2008 21:47:34 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/#comment-49396 I have some friends who use online dating services, when will you write about your experiences? We have all enjoyed hearing your mom's tales of online dating woe. I have some friends who use online dating services, when will you write about your experiences? We have all enjoyed hearing your mom’s tales of online dating woe.

]]> By: MsQ http://qmusings.com/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-49383 MsQ Fri, 18 Jan 2008 20:29:06 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/#comment-49383 <strong>Ricardo:</strong> Older women are the way to go :D <strong>Speedy</strong>! My father does what he thinks is "right" that's for sure! Of course what he thinks of as right is not necessarily right for everyone! While it's nice that my dad brags about me to our relatives, it'd be nice if he were better at saying good things about me to me. I used to be just as closed mouth as he when it came to praise and compliments - we DO learn from our parents! I agree with you that our opinion of ourselves has the most impact on our lives. I also agree with your last thought on marriage and thank you again for a wonderful metaphor - that a good marriage brings out the "bright colors" in each person. <strong>esofthub:</strong> I interpret my father's silence as a bit of the deer-in-the-headlights. I don't think he was OK with my having an online dating profile. My father may want me to get married but I think the actual idea of me dating makes him a bit squeamish. Ricardo: Older women are the way to go :D

Speedy! My father does what he thinks is “right” that’s for sure! Of course what he thinks of as right is not necessarily right for everyone!

While it’s nice that my dad brags about me to our relatives, it’d be nice if he were better at saying good things about me to me. I used to be just as closed mouth as he when it came to praise and compliments – we DO learn from our parents!

I agree with you that our opinion of ourselves has the most impact on our lives. I also agree with your last thought on marriage and thank you again for a wonderful metaphor – that a good marriage brings out the “bright colors” in each person.

esofthub: I interpret my father’s silence as a bit of the deer-in-the-headlights. I don’t think he was OK with my having an online dating profile. My father may want me to get married but I think the actual idea of me dating makes him a bit squeamish.

]]> By: esofthub http://qmusings.com/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-49358 esofthub Fri, 18 Jan 2008 18:05:03 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/#comment-49358 It was nice to read about you enjoying a chat with your father. He sounds like a pleasant and understandable gentleman. But I was wondering what he was thinking about when you mentioned about having an online dating profile - Dad: [silence]. I guess he was alright with it...right? It was nice to read about you enjoying a chat with your father. He sounds like a pleasant and understandable gentleman. But I was wondering what he was thinking about when you mentioned about having an online dating profile – Dad: [silence]. I guess he was alright with it…right?

]]> By: Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" http://qmusings.com/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-49072 Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" Thu, 17 Jan 2008 07:36:12 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2008/01/15/the-world-according-to-dad/#comment-49072 Well MsQ, you ended this perfectly. I remember growing up thinking that everyone had parents like mine. So far from the truth! If anything, we have all experienced childhood vastly different from one another. As much as we change, adapt, and grow, our up-bringing has a large role in who we are and how we think for the rest of out lives. In fact, I believe that this is far more true than most uf us will admit. I see your father as a strong man, with deep convictions and a "correct" path that is right for everyone. The best part about him from this post is how he brags about you to others ... I like that. Back to thinking that everyone had parents like mine, it is not to far fetched that a father visions the lives of others as being similar as well. The world looks like the window that your eyes peer out of. You have a bigger window, that's all. You also seem to have such a wonderful acceptance of what it is to be "perfectly happy". Self image, self empowerment, self sufficiency. A lot of self in there! While it is important as humans to be accepted, the biggest and by far the most impacting opinion of ourselves is our own. I thought this was a heartwarming story of a daughter and her father connecting, learning, and accepting one another. How grand indeed!!! One last thought (in my opinion) the best marriage is the union of 2 people comfortable with being perfecly happy alone. Instead of depending on each other, they bring out each others "bright colors". Speedy Well MsQ, you ended this perfectly.

I remember growing up thinking that everyone had parents like mine. So far from the truth! If anything, we have all experienced childhood vastly different from one another. As much as we change, adapt, and grow, our up-bringing has a large role in who we are and how we think for the rest of out lives. In fact, I believe that this is far more true than most uf us will admit.
I see your father as a strong man, with deep convictions and a “correct” path that is right for everyone. The best part about him from this post is how he brags about you to others … I like that.
Back to thinking that everyone had parents like mine, it is not to far fetched that a father visions the lives of others as being similar as well. The world looks like the window that your eyes peer out of. You have a bigger window, that’s all.
You also seem to have such a wonderful acceptance of what it is to be “perfectly happy”. Self image, self empowerment, self sufficiency. A lot of self in there! While it is important as humans to be accepted, the biggest and by far the most impacting opinion of ourselves is our own.
I thought this was a heartwarming story of a daughter and her father connecting, learning, and accepting one another. How grand indeed!!!

One last thought (in my opinion) the best marriage is the union of 2 people comfortable with being perfecly happy alone. Instead of depending on each other, they bring out each others “bright colors”.

Speedy

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