Ms.Q – I’m a Virgo but close to the cusp and occasionally a Leo depending on where the date gets divided. I think I’ve had all the mid life crises I can tolerate. I used to chalk my divorce up to my ex husband having a midlife crisis and say I’d never date anyone who hadn’t already had one (bec. who wants to go through all THAT again?!?!?!). But then I dated the Christian who was younger and right before and after that a guy who was almost fifty and I’m not sure I could tell one from the other as far as likelihood to get a sudden urge to restructure their entire lives. Then again restructuring a life wouldn’t necessarily HAVE to be a death sentence for a relationship I suppose. What were we talking about again?!?!?!

I’ve had people say they love me and they do love me. But some love feels warm and nice and some love feels needy. I have also loved people but my love was wrapped up in my own needs and expectations. Personally, the more I have become to love myself, the more loving and open I have become with others. I think when you love yourself, have some self-esteem and worth, you are less fearful to love others.

When it comes to strengths and weaknesses and self-love, yes, having someone acknowledge their weaknesses is very human and can be very attractive, especially if they aren’t beating themselves up about it.

Birthday in August?? Are you a Leo then??

I have had several emotional crises in my life and they weren’t fun but I’m glad that I went through them. If I had just curled up into a ball and hoped for rescue, I’d have missed out on many of the joys I have experienced.

Which is my way of saying that a mid-life crisis isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

Ricardo: hahahaha! Thanks for wanting to protect me! I’ve never been involved with anyone who hit me or now that I think about it, gained weight while we were dating!

Glad to learn that you are back! Wheeee!

BTW…..

I’M BACK BABY!!!!

Because in reality, how many people really, truly love themselves in the way that that particular saying implies? So if you have to love yourself first and barely anyone loves themselves, then more or less no one is allowed to love anyone.

BUT I realized, in a way it is sort of a little bit true. Because a person that maybe doesn’t totally love themselves, but at least is fairly accepting of him or herself and at least doesn’t DISLIKE him or herself would describe themselves according to their strengths & then maybe get to a weakness or two. And that *must* be more attractive to a potential love interest.

I’m going to try out the turning forty thing in August. I hope there’s no midlife crisis involved!!!!!!!! Surely I must be over the midlife crisis part of turning 40 by now???????????????

Not that your comment sounds like a crisis – more like, “I’m too old to be doing this” or “I’m old enough to try this..” “Old” being your spiritual age.

Which is all my roundabout way of saying bravo to you for taking care of yourself and showing yourself some love! It can be a struggle – I love myself more and more but I don’t totally accept myself or others! I still judge and judging is so tiring…working on it..working on it. And yeah, I keep doing those affirmations!

Eric: Thanks!!!!!!