Apr 04 2008
On Being “The Best”
I’m very self-centered.
I think about myself a lot.
I think so much about myself I even think about how much I think about myself. And then I think about why I am thinking so much about myself.
This reminds me of an ex-boyfriend of mine. He’d put his hand on my head and then quickly remove his hand, shaking and blowing on it and saying, “Ooh! Ow! It’s hot! Too much thinking!”
A dozen years since we dated and we’re still friends. A sense of humor counts for a lot.
Being The Center Of The Universe is quite tiring. I’d rather not be thinking about myself all the time. This is why I’m usually reading some book on personal development, spirituality and self-awareness.
Yep, again with the c’est moi.
The latest book I’m reading is “The Secret Of Letting Go” by Guy Finley. He writes about becoming aware of your True Self and how it’s your False Self that makes you unhappy.
I’ve read similar things in other books but I was really struck by his list of the “Five Great Illusions” that keep you from living freely. It was number 5 that made me pause.
Number 5 was the illusion that others are better, stronger or wiser than you are. The illusion you are under is that you are here on earth to be like someone else.
Dang. Is it me or does the idea that being the best YOU seem absolutely beautiful? My self, my True Self certainly is shouting YES!
What are the other 4 illusions?
- The illusion of feeling useless or insignificant - this comes from the false belief that others determine your worth.
- The illusion of discouragement – this is born from the mistaken idea that you can succeed in life without “failures” or making mistakes.
- The illusion of regret – this comes from the belief that by somehow reliving a painful past event, you can somehow fix it.
- The illusion of limitation – the false belief that you are only capable of doing what you have done in the past.
Remember that commercial for the U.S. Army: “Be All You Can Be”?
How about: Be As YOU As You Can Be?
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It’s not just you. I think we should all strive to take ourselves to the next level. Be better than we were yesterday and being the best we can ever be.
I really like this post. It exudes confidence, but not ego. Excellent!
UT: I’m glad we’re on the same wavelength but then again, we usually are! Yes, living and being and striving…it’s moment by moment.
Sue: Wow! I’m glad you like it! Especially since I felt like I just dashed it off. I’ve been trying to be more free with my writing these days and not gnawing on it so much. I’m a bit OCD about writing and wanting to get things “right” and “perfect” in general so it’s great that you’re enjoying this. Thank you.
I know I probably missed the point of the post, having filtered it through thinking about MYSELF the whole time I was reading…but that hot head comment was ****really funny****! Or close to home or something…
Just earlier this week when my stress levels were through the roof I was thinking, “I wish there was a way to just STOP thinking!” Then I wondered if maybe that’s part of the reason some people become alcoholics…
This is a good one. There are many people that don’t have the internal power to sustain a healthy sense of self worth without input from others. A little is fine but putting it all on others is dangerous. This is something that I struggle with constantly. And I know that many others do as well.
Jill:Yeah, the “hot head” comment was pretty funny and yeah, I do overthink things!
Alcohol is one method that people use to “quiet” their mind or still their dark thoughts!
Ricardo: Glad you enjoyed it. It can be very difficult to maintain a healthy sense of self-worth and sometimes it’s for the benefit of someone else that you don’t ever attain any self-esteem! I certainly struggle with getting external validation whether it’s from being “nice” so that I give a good impression to worrying about how I look.
A life without NEEDing approval – how free!