Dec 02 2008
In Your Eyes
Many wish it were otherwise, probably deny it. I suspect that denying this need is a denial of self.
What?
We all have a need to love and be loved.
Yet.
You can really like yourself.
You can know that you are worthy.
You can feel that you are wonderful.
You can even love yourself.
And.
You may know yourself to be beautiful.
You may look in the mirror and love what you see.
But.
You long to look into another’s eyes and see love’s reflection.
Why…
Is loving yourself not enough?
Because…
No matter how much we love ourselves,
Loving someone and having that loved returned.
It’s more than a reflection.
It’s a celebration.
.
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Oh, I’m such a hopeless romantic.
/swoon
well love is better when it’s returned to you that’s for sure. You can have a big time celebration. Excellent choice of music by old blue eyes himself.
Ginger: I’m romantic as well but some online dating test has me as not so romantic. Probably because I don’t care for the usual gifts and getaways and what all. They are fun and fine but to me, romance is about the cherishing, the little things you remember or the consideration you may take. “Everyday” romance not “Special Occasion” romance.
I am guessing you’re the same way!
Ricardo: I’m missing the big time celebration..that’s fer shure! Glad you like my music choice!
Not so good times for me right now. Swing by when you can.
Ohhh, MsQ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
1958 was a very good year for music. You must have read my mind or something, that was most excellent. Fine tune for an old crooner like myself .
Love has no logic, so trying to make sense of it will only confuse a person. You cannot find it, grab it, nor even wish for it. “IT” simply grabs you all of a sudden, and takes you where you least expected.
Tornado like
It’s more than a reflection.
It’s a celebration …. “I like that”
Ricardo: dang! Swung by and left comments.
Speedy!! “Old crooner”?? You can definitely croon but I’ve got a year on ya so..
Sounds like you’ve been swept off your feet by a love tornado at some point (several points?) in your past!
Glad you liked my idea of celebration…
I have this funny feeling in my nose. Now my eyes are beginning to burn. I feel a warm liquid running down my face. WoW Ms. Q… I think you summed up a lot there. I’m moved.
I generally have no patience for mushiness & I don’t even read those kinds of Hallmark cards that have all that mushy writing all over them (much less BUY them). But I’m not sure if that really has anything to do with being romantic or not. So where’s that test? I think I’m probably not all that romantic, but now I want to find out.
:-0
UT: Wow back..I’m always humbled when my writing affects people in a good way. You make me feel glad I’m a writer.
Inneresting things have been happening with my writing these days. Like this post. Where did it come from? I’ve been doing these “Morning Pages” as suggested in “The Artist’s Way” – Julia Cameron says that writing 3 pages every morning of whatever stuff is jamming up your head – a “brain drain” allows you to get rid of all that stuff so you can free up your creativity.
I rarely write poetry – “Bonsai” also came outta nowhere and is a bit of a departure from my style!
As for this particular post, well…it’s what I’ve been feeling.
Jill: the test I took was not a focused test for my romantic tendencies – I had to answer all sorts of questions and based on my answers, I was “labeled” as not so romantic, organized..blah,blah etc.
I think I am romantic but not hearts and flowers romantic – more..change my oil type of romantic or ..buy me a new mixing bowl romantic
Well, I am so glad you went with the feeling. That sounds like a book I need to pick up. I think I may go down to the book store after I get my haircut.
Oh yeah! Mixing bowl romantic, that’s me! Although, I’ve got to admit to the flowers thing – I LOVE getting flowers! But you like flowers. I’m still against mushy greeting cards though.
Three pages every morning – I would have to wake up at 4:30 am instead of five, and I don’t like to see fours in the morning. :-0 Maybe when the kids get a little older.
I long to be In Love. Real unconditional LOVE.
UT: it’s a very interesting book..I am only on Week 1 but have skimmed through the weeks and it’s almost like a course on personal development! I love the concept that creativity is spiritual but then inspiration is based on “in-spirit” right?
Jill: I’ve been thinking about your Hallmark comment and agreeing with you and then I thought..hmm..I write kinda mushy stuff! When I was looking to see what ways I might make money as a writer, greeting cards came up! I read you can make money writing those things.
So I’ll read some mushy mother’s day card but ya know, some of that stuff is nice, it’s just the fact that it’s in this card that makes it seem mushier!
Yeah, the 3 pages take me about 30 minutes. And I use a small notebook! But there is something to ‘em..
Meleah: yeah. I know what you mean. It’d be so nice to be sitting across the dining table and maybe pouring my love a cup of coffee and he’s barely awake and maybe he has morning breath but he’s just so..himself and he catches me looking at him and I’m grinning stoopidly and he says “What?!” and I say, “Oh, nothing. I just love you is all.”
So right. So right…
I just came back from the book store with the book in hand. I’m glad they had it. When I did the research to find out what the book looked like I found a couple of them of the same name. But I think I have the right one. I think this will be my read for the remainder of the year.
Yeah, I looked into that card writing stuff a little bit but figured out it just wasn’t for me. There’s no way on Earth I could write the mushy kind – I’m just not that in touch with my feelings I guess.
(for real – sometimes a friend or my brother have to tell me how I’m feeling. And then I’m like, “Oh. Okay.”) And I sort dislike those kinds of cards that make fun of the recipient, or at least if I don’t dislike them I could never write them. And that’s like a lot of the cards that are out there, so I figured card writing probably wouldn’t work out for me. 
As for you writing mushy stuff…I think I’ve mentioned before that you’re way more willing to put yourself out there that way than I am! Maybe it’s because my blog isn’t anonymous, but maybe it’s just the not being in touch with my feelings thing. Or maybe I just don’t want my boss’s kid in touch with my feelings! Or something.
UT: I hope you enjoy the book. I’ve been going through it some more and it’s revealing to me how little I allow myself to dream. It has quite a bit of personal development work in there!
Jill: You looked into card writing as well? I don’t purchase or like those making-fun cards, either. You not being in touch with your feelings? Hmmm. Being in touch with your feelings is pretty difficult – or rather, knowing what is causing the feeling is hard! For example, I may “feel sad” but I’m not sure why. And the sadness is not really sad but disappointment. Feelings have their own terminology – like “sad” is a range and knowing the range (disappointment, tired, lonely…) moves you closer to the cause.
Some people are always angry but the heart of anger is usually sadness. It’s just “easier” to feel anger than sadness.
Me and writing mushy stuff? Yeah, being anonymous helps!