Comments on: Social Currency

By: Jill/Twipply Skwood

Jill/Twipply Skwood — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 14:23:39 +0000

Ok, I realized while I was out rollerblading that it’s like this – I just recently posted about how two guys made various remarks to me while I was taking a photo by the side of the road. Before (perhaps because of a combination of the way I was raised combined with 12 years of marriage to the wrong person) I would never have recognized that as having been hit on, and had I thought about it at all, it probably would have been in a derogatory way. Post-divorce though, I can just simply enjoy it for what it was worth – two guys pointing out a curiosity in their neighborhood in a flattering way, IF you allow yourself to be flattered.

The other thing I realized while I was out rollerblading is that I have absolutely NO IDEA how rollerblading fits in with your mom’s whole drying up theory. I would think you’d have to get fatter to plump out and that seems sort of counterproductive.

By: Jill/Twipply Skwood

Jill/Twipply Skwood — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 13:30:39 +0000

Oh, no story really. It’s just that I was definitely raised not to take advantage of or make a big deal of looks. It wasn’t until probably a couple of years ago (just after divorce) that I realized it was ok to take advantage of looks to a certain extent. For instance, I never fully realized that boobs were useful above and beyond baby feeding until after I got divorced. Sad, but true.

In a way you sort of saw me through some of that transition, or maybe I only wrote you about it later but I remember writing to you often about the men I dated between divorce and shacking up with Razor. I think that having a marriage already behind me and already having kids allowed me to see dating as something to do for fun and not necessarily anything serious, which in turn meant that I didn’t have to be so serious about downplaying the role of looks in relationships. Or something like that. Which all turns out to be very ironic if you consider that I was only looking to have fun and ended up in the best relationship of my entire life. Wait…what we talking about? Oh yeah – boobs. Use them while you’re young.

By: MsQ

MsQ — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 19:57:20 +0000

Jill: “f I hadn’t suddenly, late in life, discovered the benefit of grapeness.”

What? Cliffhanger? No story?? Is this your story or something you noticed? I can’t imagine you’d have a “hard descent” with your attitude.

There is some truth to: “Youth is wasted on the young” (G. Bernard Shaw) – you have to have some life experience to appreciate being young. Of course, this just make me think about being a kid and hearing the “old folks” complain and give out forecasts about how lucky I was to be young. Now I know enough to appreciate what I have now. I also catch myself telling all those 20-somethings to “enjoy it while you can.” when they do something to excess and manage to spring back quickly.

Grapeness is relative – if you’re a juicy 68 year old then you’re going to want someone as juicy. When you get older, if you’re juicy and male, it seems you have your pick of the ladies in your age range (and older) as the women tend to outlive the men. But juicy elderly men tend to want juicy women so they go for younger, leaving the raisiny women who are closer in age in the uh, dust.

Then again, maybe juicy is not just physical, it’s mental!
arizaphale: “dumb is forever” is true! Wise people see past the looks and when it comes to romantic relationships, sure you have to have some physical attraction but over time, the mental attraction keeps the emotional attractions going!

By: arizaphale

arizaphale — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 23:48:51 +0000

Judge Judy once said that ‘beauty is passing but dumb is forever’. Make sure you got something left to talk about once your looks go!
Due to my Celtic skin colouring I am less of a raisin and more of a limp grape. You know like the ones that get left in the fridge too long?

By: Jill/Twipply Skwood

Jill/Twipply Skwood — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 14:32:47 +0000

I don’t think I would have been as sensitive to aging if I hadn’t suddenly, late in life, discovered the benefit of grapeness. It was really only at the verge of raisin-y-ness. And I do think it will be a hard decent into raisinness, but I think it must be a lot harder for people who were once drop dead gorgeous. At least the gap for me won’t be as large.

Then again, I remember one time I was in a restaurant with my parents and my aunt and uncle. My aunt was in her late 60s or maybe even 70 at the time. Some guy was noticing her, even flirting with her a little maybe. My dad says, “The men still love her.” and my uncle responds, “And she still eats it up.” Or it might have been the other way around. Either way, maybe not as much of it is age based as we think.