Comments on: The Price of Fear http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/ Something To Think About Mon, 13 Oct 2008 03:47:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: ack http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-16075 ack Tue, 28 Aug 2007 04:24:53 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-16075 It wasn't so much giving a speech as participating in the group discussion, making points, etc. I was sitting, which is how one normally is in one's desk. Had it been a requirement to stand, I probably would have felt uncomfortable. But sitting in my desk, i was fine. Long since past it. (I think.) the acid test will be if they ever ask me to present at the company dog and pony show, i suppose. still haven't done that in all these years. (not that i'm begging to, mind you.) Still, i thought it odd that company decided it made sense to fly someone in from China rather than ask moi to pop over to vegas from the SF bay area. but, what do i know? i'm just a software engineer. ;-) It wasn’t so much giving a speech as participating in the group discussion, making points, etc. I was sitting, which is how one normally is in one’s desk. Had it been a requirement to stand, I probably would have felt uncomfortable. But sitting in my desk, i was fine.

Long since past it. (I think.) the acid test will be if they ever ask me to present at the company dog and pony show, i suppose. still haven’t done that in all these years. (not that i’m begging to, mind you.) Still, i thought it odd that company decided it made sense to fly someone in from China rather than ask moi to pop over to vegas from the SF bay area. but, what do i know? i’m just a software engineer. ;-)

]]> By: Jos http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-15839 Jos Sun, 26 Aug 2007 10:08:31 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-15839 At your service ;) http://ogendicht.blogspot.com/2007/08/so-wheres-fire.html ~Jos At your service ;)

http://ogendicht.blogspot.com/2007/08/so-wheres-fire.html

~Jos

]]> By: Jos http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-15816 Jos Sun, 26 Aug 2007 05:34:49 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-15816 MsQ: Thanks, that might be a good idea. But I did not write it down here for no reason :) Thank you for the suggestion. ~Jos MsQ: Thanks, that might be a good idea.
But I did not write it down here for no reason :)
Thank you for the suggestion. ~Jos

]]> By: MsQ http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-15812 MsQ Sun, 26 Aug 2007 04:32:18 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-15812 <strong>Jos:</strong> Wow. That is a terrific story! Your father sounds terrific. I'd love for you to write that up on your blog! It's amazing how life is really all about perception. I am trying to change my perception or attitude from Fear to Curiosity or even, Challenge. Jos: Wow. That is a terrific story! Your father sounds terrific. I’d love for you to write that up on your blog! It’s amazing how life is really all about perception. I am trying to change my perception or attitude from Fear to Curiosity or even, Challenge.

]]> By: Jos http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-15801 Jos Sun, 26 Aug 2007 02:55:51 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/08/23/the-price-of-fear/#comment-15801 I remember when I was 5 or 6 years old, I had this fear that our house would burn down while I was asleep, and I also had a fear of the dark. So I would not go to sleep for what must have been weeks. My dad dealt with his in a remarkable way that still makes me smile when I think of it. He put me on the sofa next to him and said, with a voice that grownups would only use when speaking to other grownups: "I know you are afraid of a fire bruning the house down. And you know what? I understand that. I too would be afraid, if the curtains in my bedroom were as thin as yours are. Now, you see, these curtains in your bedroom are so thin that the light of that street lamp post outside still shines through them, and it is probably that light that makes you think of a fire when you are half asleep. And this is what causes your fear. So we are going to fix this and get you some thicker curtains." Isn't that amazing? He gave me a real 'handle', a 'grip' on that ungraspable fear, so I could make it go away; and at the same time he turned the "darkness", that I had also feared so much, into my friend. I remember when I was 5 or 6 years old, I had this fear that our house would burn down while I was asleep, and I also had a fear of the dark. So I would not go to sleep for what must have been weeks.

My dad dealt with his in a remarkable way that still makes me smile when I think of it. He put me on the sofa next to him and said, with a voice that grownups would only use when speaking to other grownups: “I know you are afraid of a fire bruning the house down. And you know what? I understand that. I too would be afraid, if the curtains in my bedroom were as thin as yours are. Now, you see, these curtains in your bedroom are so thin that the light of that street lamp post outside still shines through them, and it is probably that light that makes you think of a fire when you are half asleep. And this is what causes your fear. So we are going to fix this and get you some thicker curtains.”

Isn’t that amazing? He gave me a real ‘handle’, a ‘grip’ on that ungraspable fear, so I could make it go away; and at the same time he turned the “darkness”, that I had also feared so much, into my friend.

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