Oct 19 2007
All You Get Is Soup
Mom’s first thought when she started with Match.com, an online dating service:
“You go to Match.com and they are selling things like it’s a gourmet food store.”
“So you head out with your list of ingredients and you start shopping.”
“You look around. There’s no gourmet food. All you find is soup! There’s nothing but soup!”
This was even before she had gone out on a few dates and learned that there are lies, damn lies, and online dating profiles.
She hasn’t been too thrilled with online dating:
“If there had been online dating when I was in my twenties, you’d never have been born!”
Personally, I think Mom would have found a way. Then again, Dad pretty much dropped in her lap.
But that’s another story.
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I like soup…
I dislike online dating. I did it once, met the guy, and realized I wasn’t cut out to be disappointed time and again. Ended up finding my husband through a friend at work and things worked out nicely in the end.
I hope your mom finds somebody nice. I’m looking forward to hearing the story of how your Dad fell into her lap too.
Sue: Soup is fine but the analogy is typical of the way my mom thinks. I’m not sure why soup but of course the idea was that she wasn’t shopping for soup and that was her only choice.
I’m not sure I’ll ever describe how I came into this world! Or “Ms. Q - The Prequel”
When do we get the Dad story?
Dropped in his lap? That is a story I’d like to hear.
I love the soup analogy. I only wonder what brand of soup she is finding – Campbell’s or Progresso (Progresso has more chunks).
Yeah I wanted to hear about your dad falling into your mom’s lap too!!!!
I’m not sure about the whole soup thing. I was told that freaks were few & far between on the online site I signed up for, but I’m not sure that’s entirely true.
I should say that I was told that by a guy who’s profile pic. featured a picture of himself with a monkey on his head. Of course, he emailed not having realized we had already met through a friend at the grocery store.
HMTKSteve: The Dad story? Uh…probably never. Or I figure out how to tell the story. But I’m not planning on telling it right now.
UT: Based on mom’s expression when she was describing Match (this was over dinner and mom is very expressive) I am guessing something along the lines of chicken noodle - lotta broth, a bit watery and very little meat.
Jill: I have no idea of what if any freakiness goes on at Match. I am guessing that it’s the same percentage as the rest of the population since it’s not specifically geared towards freakiness. What’s this about a guy with a monkey on his head? Was this a visual pun of the phrase “monkey on my back?” Funny that you had already met him in person prior and then he emailed you online! Didn’t he recognized you?
I’ve had guys email me multiple times. They forget they had contacted me months ago or even the prior year. It’s that Dating ADD.
I don’t think he realizes that he’d met me in the grocery store a month or two prior, at least the email didn’t read that way. He didn’t specifically use the word “freak” either - I think he said something along the lines of people who are “out there” or something! Not sure how I could possibly qualify on *that* count!!!!! :-0 :-0 :-0
He had some explanation about the monkey that I can’t remember. If I ever log in again, I’ll have to reread the message! I think he was giving a lecture on something or another or something…I figure my dating profile more or less boils down to “must have sense of humor and not mind dealing with a total basket case.” His must read be okay with animals and oddity…actually, mine probably reads “be okay with oddity” too, for that matter. :-0
Aw, Ms. Q, you shouldn’t bring up a story that you’re not ready to share! (unless subconsciously you ARE ready to share, but haven’t decided to consciously share it with us.) It sparks interest.
That and we’ll hound you until you do share it with us.
As for the online dating sites, i haven’t heard much good about them except for the advertisements that spout how great they are. But, having been told “go fish” by one, i’m not exactly inclined to try them again.
ack: You all will just have to remain curious. Hound away.
I have heard that people have met and married via online dating. So it’s not a bust. Most people don’t think of dating as tons of fun in any forum. My mom is looking forward to the day her subscription runs out. Then she can rest and “putter around in the yard” again.
Hound, hound, hound.
It seems to me that on line dating services try to make finding your mate feel like a click away, just like ordering shoes over the Internet. Maybe we’re just merchandise(?).
ack: “Good luck with that.” -SpongeBoB Square Pants
Jake: I don’t think we’re just merchandise despite the whole “place your order” feel to online dating. Unfortunately, online dating is sold that way — fill in the 300+ questionnaire and it’ll match you up with the appropriate mate for you.