Mar 23 2008
What A Difference An Inch Makes
As you recall, I am four-foot-ten-and-three-quarter-inches short. That is 58.75 inches. Add another inch and I’d STILL be under 5 feet.
Oh, well.
I have also had short hair for over 10 years. A year before I graduated from college I cut my hair short. I went from hair that I could sit on to a chin-length bob.
I wanted to try out a “more professional” look before I actually became a professional.
What’s inneresting is when someone new (male) learns that I had this long hair. Their eyes momentarily glaze over. As I said, inneresting.
It’s as if I’m no longer there, they are superimposing this hair on me now.
Sometimes last year I had let my hair grow out. It went from being really short to just short.
I was out with a friend (male) and mentioned that I was cutting it - it was due.
He looked at it and said, “You’re cutting it?” and his look of disappointment surprised me. I mean, it was only an inch, okay maybe 2 inches longer.
I said, “Yes, it’s just getting a bit shaggy.”
He said, “Oh. Well. It’s just…uh. Well it is your hair.”
Inneresting.
I didn’t think that much of all this but then a very close (male) friend of mine has been telling me for years that if I wanted to attract more men, I should grow my hair out. He has been telling me, “Yeah, I know, you believe that a guy should like you for you and not for your hair but MEN LIKE LONG HAIR!!”
My response is to sigh.
His response is to continue, “I’m tellin’ ya, even if you grow it out a little - I’m not telling you to grow it to past your waist like you used to have. - Just a little! Guys like that.”
We’ve had this conversation before. Usually when I’m bemoaning my single state. Which isn’t that often, as I don’t like bemoaning in general.
He’ll shrug his shoulders, shake his head and end with, “Just an inch. I’m telling you…it helps.”
My mom has also been telling me that men like long hair. She even grew hers out a bit when she tried online dating.
I’ve gone through quite a few changes over the last year. Mostly internal changes. Sometime last year I decided to grow out my hair. Just a little.
I was out with Younger and Older Dude and one of Younger Dude’s friends who’s my age. It was early Friday night and we were easing into the weekend. We were enjoying glasses of wine at a neighborhood restaurant/bar.
I forget how we got to the topic of my hair but I said, “Oh, yeah, I used to have hair this long” as I placed the edge of my hand at hip level.
Three sets of eyes glazed over.
Inneresting.
If you’re innerested in seeing me with shorter hair, you can check me out here, here, here and here!
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I’m going to be honest. Short hair on short people makes you look shorter. Been there too, hon, twice. Didn’t work either way.
The length you’re at now works well with your face and shoulder frame too! I really like it at the moment!
I like it the way it is now too!
I tried short hair when my son was a baby, because it’s supposed to be easier I guess. But it ended up taking just as much work & looked unkempt more often ’cause I could never keep up with the trims & cuts required to keep short hair looking good. Plus, I don’t think I ever looked all that great in short hair.
I’ll admit, I love long hair on a woman. I cannot help to think about the added flavor it gives a female and all the many things that can be done with it. I can appreciate a woman with short hair because it is her head and what she does with her hair is her business.
My ex cut her hair, which was down her back, and I never thought of her the same again. One of my issues was that my hair was now longer than hers. I had braids at the time (I was young and in high school). So I thought to cut my hair cause it just didn’t seem right.
That’s kind of interesting…I honestly don’t know if I’ve ever felt especially attracted to long hair vs short hair. I do know that they each respectively look better on certain people.
Sue: Honesty is good.
I don’t really care about whether or not I look shorter. Looking fatter is something else!
Although Younger Dude thinks I’m anorexic when I tell him I can’t eat something because “of my pooch.” and he’ll say, “There is no pooch.”
I reply, “Don’t you hear it barking??”
Very silly arguments we have.
Thanks for the compliment on my hair length. I’m liking it. More of a hassle though - adds 5 minutes to the morning routine - blowdrying! I can now have a “bad hair day” when I used to couldn’t!
Jill: Thanks! For me, short hair was pricier since I had to cut it more but dang, I didn’t have to fuss with it in the meantime. I’ve only seen you in long hair so I dunno. I’m guessing that longer hair suits you more. What I liked when I had really short hair was slicking it back. I felt very Matrix-y, especially if I wore all black!
UT: You’re not the only male who likes long hair on women! Although my hairstylist also likes long hair! Or longer hair. When I told her I was going to try growing it out, she said, “That’s great! You can do more with it, mix it up. Long hair is feminine.” Personally, I think it would take a lot for me not to look feminine but I can understand the hair thing. I had hair so short near the nape of my neck that you could see my scalp. It was kinda fun to try it out. The hair felt soft as a kitten. But boy, it took me a while to get used to it - hair keeps you warm! I had to start wearing scarves.
Inneresting on your response to your ex cutting her hair way back when you were in high school!Aahhh..the things that we think are important, huh? I figger IF I’M LUCKY, I’ll let go of the many trivial things I find important now. I have silly things that bug me (like noisy eating - serious slurping action) that is just so…silly to be bothered by!
Sounds like you have outgrown the need to have shorter hair than the person you’re dating!
Derek: Personally, I think that it all depends on what looks good on a person in addition to what they actually prefer. I’ve seen some women with incredibly long hair and it’s like they are all about their hair. But what might be more flattering is a shorter (if still long) cut. There are many people out there who would look better with a better haircut but hey,it’s their hair!
I still think it’s all depends on what looks good an a person - I like short and clean cut hair on a man. But some men look very nice with a beard and some men look very sexy with long hair. Just depends. So my preference (default) may be clean cut but I’m more about the whole person (heart and mind!)
Yes, I’ve moved on from hair requirements (sorta - see side note). I’m lucky to find someone who is employed, intelligent, funny, and willing to try new things. Just getting through that is tough enough.
Side note: I actually prefer a woman who is natural than one who wears a wig or a weave. I don’t mind her having a fro or no hair at all just as long as it’s hers. Length doesn’t matter.
The hair in the photo on this entry is a nice length. Down to your hips might be a little too long. In some of the other photos it seemed a bit short.
Of course, this is just my opinion.
(The Kabuki makeup is a little intimidating, regardless.)
UT: “Length doesn’t matter” hehehehe. Nice to hear that it works both ways.
I thought you would like natural hair (I forget if you or OP wrote that post on weaves?) since you have mentioned that you like a more natural look (not much makeup) in general. But your comment makes me think that you may not have dated a woman who didn’t have naturally kinky hair? I’m just mentioning it as I wouldn’t think to mention weaves or wigs since it’s not in my consciousness!
Black hair is interesting and has it’s own thing going on, that’s for sure! I was outside this salon and it mentioned “Caesars” and some other things that didn’t sound familiar to me and I realized that the salon specialized in Black hair.
Regarding finding someone - yeah, hair is the least of what’s important! I’m surprised about the Employed part although in my field that can actually be optional what with people getting laid off!
When it comes to online dating, the men I’ve met are intelligent, generally highly intelligent and funny and usually active/fit - all part of my criteria ‘cuz I’m all that
!!
From there it comes down to attraction and that’s when things get tricky!
delmer: glad you like the length it is now. Good to hear your opinion. I mean, gather that cross-section of men and age ranges …and we’re in the same age range I believe!
I only do Kabuki when I do my version of “Purple Rose Of Cairo” and step into my blog. In real life I’m as intimidating as a hamster.