Comments for QMusings http://qmusings.com Something to Think About Sat, 12 Jan 2013 18:04:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 Comment on Have You Outgrown Your Parents? by Zara http://qmusings.com/2007/03/12/have-you-outgrown-your-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-198324 Zara Sat, 12 Jan 2013 18:04:50 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/03/12/have-you-outgrown-your-parents/#comment-198324 Well, its 2013 but what the hell. I totally understand the criticism coming in with arguments like "what if parents decided to outgrow their children" but I am truly on the same page with the author of the article. I was raised by a single parent and God knows I appreciate the effort that my parent has put to raising me but I still very much feel that we aren't on the same page about many things, many critical things I should say. Let alone being happy, it is very hard to achieve your true potential when you're always carrying them on your shoulder. When my siblings are present, things are easier because conversation deflects around simple subjects but lately I've been living with my parent alone and hyperbole aside it's been hell And it's not all that black and white, it is very possible for two good people to be oblivious about 'working things out' --and as much as I know that the pain a parent feels over estrangement from their child is great, I know from experience that the guilt of a child over not being able to connect can be just as heavy and sometimes even heavier. Well, its 2013 but what the hell.
I totally understand the criticism coming in with arguments like “what if parents decided to outgrow their children” but I am truly on the same page with the author of the article.
I was raised by a single parent and God knows I appreciate the effort that my parent has put to raising me but I still very much feel that we aren’t on the same page about many things, many critical things I should say.
Let alone being happy, it is very hard to achieve your true potential when you’re always carrying them on your shoulder. When my siblings are present, things are easier because conversation deflects around simple subjects but lately I’ve been living with my parent alone and hyperbole aside it’s been hell
And it’s not all that black and white, it is very possible for two good people to be oblivious about ‘working things out’ –and as much as I know that the pain a parent feels over estrangement from their child is great, I know from experience that the guilt of a child over not being able to connect can be just as heavy and sometimes even heavier.

]]> Comment on Do Funny Girls Get the Guy? by Natasha Andreil http://qmusings.com/2007/02/28/do-funny-girls-get-the-guy/comment-page-1/#comment-196659 Natasha Andreil Mon, 17 Dec 2012 11:29:39 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/02/28/do-funny-girls-get-the-guy/#comment-196659 Hmmm. I dunno. I grew up as tomboy, preferring to hangout with guys than girls, really insecure about my looks (Here's a girl who had a guy jump off a balcony to ask me out. I've caused two car accidents. Um, and had to learn how be comfortable with possessing an hourglass figure and a face that makes guys say inappropriate sexual comments. I could've learned to manipulate guys into giving me whatever I want but I consider guys to be much more than just things but human beings with feelings.), and extremely shy. The only time I'd be funny, and I mean bust a gut-dying from laughing funny is when I'm with my two sisters and my Mom. I don't get funny around guys, simply because they make me too nervous. He literally has to make me laugh in order for me to comfortable around him, whether he tickles me or cracks some jokes. And as a defense mechanism, if I perceive a guy wants to get involved with me only I don't feel the same, I will use humor to put myself in the buddy bin. My problem is I'm too lazy to keep up with it and the guy gets interested again because I let my guard down. But this is the issue at hand: guys typically don't go for the funny girl unless she's get some very convincing attributes that trick the guy into wanting to be more than friends. But I do notice that once I'm in a relationship with a guy I can be free to be funny because it puts me in the buddy bin and signals to guys that I'm taken and if I'm really comfortable with my guy and we're at home alone, I get hilarious then too. I learned when to be funny and when to let the guy shine. I prefer not have a lot of attention cast upon me anyway. But yeah, it's my experience that a guy doesn't like a girl to steal his thunder. And if he's that way, he's not mature enough for you. Hmmm. I dunno. I grew up as tomboy, preferring to hangout with guys than girls, really insecure about my looks (Here’s a girl who had a guy jump off a balcony to ask me out. I’ve caused two car accidents. Um, and had to learn how be comfortable with possessing an hourglass figure and a face that makes guys say inappropriate sexual comments. I could’ve learned to manipulate guys into giving me whatever I want but I consider guys to be much more than just things but human beings with feelings.), and extremely shy. The only time I’d be funny, and I mean bust a gut-dying from laughing funny is when I’m with my two sisters and my Mom. I don’t get funny around guys, simply because they make me too nervous. He literally has to make me laugh in order for me to comfortable around him, whether he tickles me or cracks some jokes. And as a defense mechanism, if I perceive a guy wants to get involved with me only I don’t feel the same, I will use humor to put myself in the buddy bin. My problem is I’m too lazy to keep up with it and the guy gets interested again because I let my guard down. But this is the issue at hand: guys typically don’t go for the funny girl unless she’s get some very convincing attributes that trick the guy into wanting to be more than friends.

But I do notice that once I’m in a relationship with a guy I can be free to be funny because it puts me in the buddy bin and signals to guys that I’m taken and if I’m really comfortable with my guy and we’re at home alone, I get hilarious then too. I learned when to be funny and when to let the guy shine. I prefer not have a lot of attention cast upon me anyway. But yeah, it’s my experience that a guy doesn’t like a girl to steal his thunder. And if he’s that way, he’s not mature enough for you.

]]> Comment on Do Funny Girls Get the Guy? by How To Make Girls Laugh http://qmusings.com/2007/02/28/do-funny-girls-get-the-guy/comment-page-1/#comment-195329 How To Make Girls Laugh Wed, 28 Nov 2012 05:41:13 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/02/28/do-funny-girls-get-the-guy/#comment-195329 As a man I don't normally think that women are funny...as a rule. Don't get me wrong, there are funny women out there like Ellen and Roseanne, but women we meet on the street are usually not funny at all - especially the hot ones. I remember I dated a girl I thought was funny, but that didn't last long and I'm not too sure why. Maybe men just can't deal with a woman if she's too funny :-( As a man I don’t normally think that women are funny…as a rule. Don’t get me wrong, there are funny women out there like Ellen and Roseanne, but women we meet on the street are usually not funny at all – especially the hot ones. I remember I dated a girl I thought was funny, but that didn’t last long and I’m not too sure why. Maybe men just can’t deal with a woman if she’s too funny :-(

]]> Comment on Do Funny Girls Get the Guy? by X http://qmusings.com/2007/02/28/do-funny-girls-get-the-guy/comment-page-1/#comment-187336 X Wed, 25 Jul 2012 02:56:03 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/02/28/do-funny-girls-get-the-guy/#comment-187336 Frankly, I've struggled with this, too. I thought it was because I'm ugly or fat or something else because I always thought a good sense of humour was an attractive trait to both men or women. Honestly, I'm not repulsive-looking. I'm not what the norm would consider hot either. I'm just normal-looking so I thought about it, and I realised the thing that sets me apart from the other girls was that I understand "male humour" enough to actually use it in my daily conversation. Despite my sad discovery that the general male population does not find me attractive because of a trait that makes people smile and laugh and feel good, I find comfort in the fact that there are quite a few of good examples of women who are considered attractive AND are funny. Such as Emily Blunt, Olivia Munn, Ellen Page, Mila Kunis, and of course Ms. Emma Stone. And why not throw Zooey Deschanel in there even though no one really gets her humour. Even though all these women give a lot of aesthetic pleasure, I do truly believe that their easy-going, humourous, and warm personalities have a lot, or at least a wee bit, to do with their attractiveness level. After being sad for approximately ten nanoseconds, I realised that I would rather be the funny one who has the ability to lighten up a dull situation than the dull girl who just giggles lightly and looks cute and catches the eye of a handsome young and incredibly shallow and daft man. I am pretty damn funny, and I'm proud of it. Who cares if us funny girls aren't suitable for most men? Most men aren't suitable for us. It is, or at least I have observed, most socially acceptable to just have one partner, isn't it? So screw what the majority finds attractive, and be the individual you are. Be the rib-tickling little gem you are because there are PLENTY of men out there who love a woman who has a side-splitting sense of humour. Frankly, I’ve struggled with this, too. I thought it was because I’m ugly or fat or something else because I always thought a good sense of humour was an attractive trait to both men or women. Honestly, I’m not repulsive-looking. I’m not what the norm would consider hot either. I’m just normal-looking so I thought about it, and I realised the thing that sets me apart from the other girls was that I understand “male humour” enough to actually use it in my daily conversation.

Despite my sad discovery that the general male population does not find me attractive because of a trait that makes people smile and laugh and feel good, I find comfort in the fact that there are quite a few of good examples of women who are considered attractive AND are funny.

Such as Emily Blunt, Olivia Munn, Ellen Page, Mila Kunis, and of course Ms. Emma Stone. And why not throw Zooey Deschanel in there even though no one really gets her humour.

Even though all these women give a lot of aesthetic pleasure, I do truly believe that their easy-going, humourous, and warm personalities have a lot, or at least a wee bit, to do with their attractiveness level.

After being sad for approximately ten nanoseconds, I realised that I would rather be the funny one who has the ability to lighten up a dull situation than the dull girl who just giggles lightly and looks cute and catches the eye of a handsome young and incredibly shallow and daft man. I am pretty damn funny, and I’m proud of it. Who cares if us funny girls aren’t suitable for most men? Most men aren’t suitable for us. It is, or at least I have observed, most socially acceptable to just have one partner, isn’t it? So screw what the majority finds attractive, and be the individual you are. Be the rib-tickling little gem you are because there are PLENTY of men out there who love a woman who has a side-splitting sense of humour.

]]> Comment on Do Funny Girls Get the Guy? by Jennifer http://qmusings.com/2007/02/28/do-funny-girls-get-the-guy/comment-page-1/#comment-177771 Jennifer Wed, 18 Apr 2012 04:30:18 +0000 http://qmusings.com/blog/2007/02/28/do-funny-girls-get-the-guy/#comment-177771 Hey hey hey! So I pretty much have the same problem. I have ALWAYS been the hilarious girl my whole life. I've made people literally pee their pants laughing, I've won "Most funniest" in high school AND middle school, and lots of people have said I should be a comedienne. With that in mind, it is no surprise to me that I have never had a serious relationship or boyfriend. This has been a huge source of my sadness and insecurity, unfortunately. I am currently 16. I'm not bad to look at either. I'm tall and slender with good hair and a pretty looking face. But I always ask myself why guys don't ask me out....I'm nice and popular and smart. I like talking to everyone and am not a judgmental person. I can make people laugh till their stomachs hurt and yet, still no guys :/ I agree with the above posters that say guys like to be the ones to have their jokes laughed at. I do believe I am much funnier than most boys I have met in my life so far. Comedy is a way of life for me (: I love watching sketch shows, parodies, South Park, and more. Humor is so valuable, dont you think? Why wouldnt a guy want a girl who makes him have a fun time? I do tone it down when I am with a boy I like, though. and I've realized that it makes the boy more responsive and flirtatious. But, later on, I get discouraged. I think its so BORING to be like a "typical" girl who just stands around and giggles at the boy's lame jokes all the time. But then again, thats the girl that usually gets the guy. so whatever. Hey hey hey! So I pretty much have the same problem. I have ALWAYS been the hilarious girl my whole life. I’ve made people literally pee their pants laughing, I’ve won “Most funniest” in high school AND middle school, and lots of people have said I should be a comedienne. With that in mind, it is no surprise to me that I have never had a serious relationship or boyfriend. This has been a huge source of my sadness and insecurity, unfortunately. I am currently 16. I’m not bad to look at either. I’m tall and slender with good hair and a pretty looking face. But I always ask myself why guys don’t ask me out….I’m nice and popular and smart. I like talking to everyone and am not a judgmental person. I can make people laugh till their stomachs hurt and yet, still no guys :/
I agree with the above posters that say guys like to be the ones to have their jokes laughed at. I do believe I am much funnier than most boys I have met in my life so far. Comedy is a way of life for me (: I love watching sketch shows, parodies, South Park, and more. Humor is so valuable, dont you think? Why wouldnt a guy want a girl who makes him have a fun time? I do tone it down when I am with a boy I like, though. and I’ve realized that it makes the boy more responsive and flirtatious. But, later on, I get discouraged. I think its so BORING to be like a “typical” girl who just stands around and giggles at the boy’s lame jokes all the time. But then again, thats the girl that usually gets the guy. so whatever.

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